Exploring Healthy Sex and Pleasure Therapies: Tantra, Sex Therapy, EMDR, and Somatic Experiencing

Let’s talk about sex baby! This happens to be my favorite topic and for good reason. The more we normalize talking about sex, the easier it is to have it. Isn’t it interesting that a thing that is considered so vital for our survival yet alone our wellbeing is considered so taboo and not polite to discuss in public company? We gotta change the narrative and start having these open and honest conversations. Sexuality is a fundamental aspect of the human experience, and it plays a crucial role in our overall well-being and mental health. However, for many individuals and couples, issues related to sexuality, pleasure, and intimacy can be complex and challenging to navigate. As a sexual medicine specialist, the key to my success is understanding that I play a small role in your overall sexual health goals. I always say that partnered sex is a team sport. (We love a sports analogy here). For example, let’s say we are playing doubles “tennis”. My job as the doctor/surgeon is to equip you with all the tools you need to play (i.e tennis racket, tennis shoes, tennis balls and the most importantly the cutest outfit to play in). However, I’m not going to be the person actually teaching you how to play “tennis”. That’s where our amazing sexual health/pleasure practicioners come in. There are various therapeutic approaches designed to address these issues and promote healthy sexual experiences/teach you how to play the sport of “tennis”. In this blog post, we will continue to explore different healthy sex and pleasure therapies, including Tantra, Sex Therapy, EMDR, and Somatic Experiencing, shedding light on how they can help individuals and couples achieve greater sexual well-being.

1. Tantra

Tantra is an ancient spiritual and sexual practice that originated in India thousands of years ago. It combines physical, emotional, and spiritual elements to foster a deep sense of connection and pleasure. Tantra emphasizes mindfulness, breath work, and sensual touch as tools to enhance sexual intimacy. Tantra practitioners aim to unlock the full potential of their sexual energy and experience heightened states of pleasure and connection with their partners.

Benefits of Tantra:

- Improved communication and emotional connection with your partner.

- Increased body awareness and sensuality.

- Enhanced sexual pleasure and satisfaction.

- Reduced stress and anxiety.

2. Sex Therapy

Sex Therapy is a specialized form of therapy that focuses on addressing sexual issues and improving sexual well-being. Certified sex therapists work with individuals and couples to explore their sexual concerns, preferences, and desires in a safe and non-judgmental environment. Sex therapy can help individuals and couples address a wide range of concerns, including low libido, sexual performance anxiety, and relationship issues.

Benefits of Sex Therapy:

- Enhanced communication and intimacy in relationships.

- Improved sexual function and satisfaction.

- Resolution of sexual concerns and challenges.

- Greater self-awareness and sexual confidence.

3. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)

EMDR is a therapeutic technique primarily used to treat trauma-related conditions, but it can also be beneficial in addressing sexual trauma and related issues. This approach involves guided eye movements and desensitization to help individuals process and heal from traumatic experiences that may be affecting their sexual well-being. EMDR can be particularly helpful for individuals who have experienced sexual assault or abuse.

Benefits of EMDR in Sexual Therapy:

- Trauma resolution and healing.

- Reduction of sexual anxiety and fear.

- Improved sexual functioning and intimacy.

- Enhanced overall mental health.

4. Somatic Experiencing

Somatic Experiencing is a body-oriented therapeutic approach that focuses on resolving trauma and stress-related issues. It can be used to address sexual trauma and help individuals reconnect with their bodies in a positive and healthy way. Somatic Experiencing practitioners guide clients in paying attention to bodily sensations and emotions to facilitate healing.

Benefits of Somatic Experiencing in Sexual Therapy:

- Trauma resolution and healing.

- Increased body awareness and comfort.

- Enhanced sexual pleasure and intimacy.

- Improved emotional regulation.

Conclusion

Learning how to play “tennis” requires a robust team of experts, sexperts if you will. Exploring healthy sex and pleasure therapies can be a transformative journey for individuals and couples seeking to enhance their sexual well-being and intimacy. Whether you choose Tantra, Sex Therapy, EMDR, or Somatic Experiencing, the key is to find an approach that resonates with your needs and goals. Remember that sexual well-being is an essential part of overall health, and seeking professional guidance when faced with challenges can lead to a more fulfilling and satisfying sexual life.